An Alternative to Wandering…
So picture this- Abby and I- a young couple working together at a college radio station, organizing CD’s. As the day went by, so did many conversations, about music, life, the internet and oh yeah, our relationship. Me being myself, I decided to be transparent and let her know that I was evaluating other women as they crossed my path, and that she was better(for me) than anyone else I’d seen.
She didn’t take that so well.
Why? I thought….we’re just dating, I’m allowed to look, right?
The idea being, that if we’re getting ready for marriage, we need to be intentional about practicing for marriage- that means I must be focused on her and no other women.
At first, I thought this was ridiculous, but then I actually put it into practice. Our relationship got richer. When I actually focused on her, I actually focused on her, and it made our relationship more intentional.
But it still left a hole in my heart.
How am I supposed to evaluate whether or not she’s the one for me to marry? I’ve never dated anybody before, and I certainly haven’t been married. Sure, there’s some stuff in Proverbs 31, and the Song of Solomon(though it seems more suited for marriage), and she seemed to fit all of those, but I wanted to be surer than sure.
So I’ve been thinking about it, and I’ve been praying about it. I think I’ve got an answer.
I need to be observing married couples I trust. Seeing how they interact, and deciding if the love which they have for years and years is the same love I have, or if the love I have is fleeting, fake physical love.
And that’s something that is going to take a little time to figure out…though I *might* have a clue.
